Anxiety Therapy that identifies and heals the root cause
Anxiety is your nervous system’s warning light – it’s not your enemy – it’s a message. Most approaches to anxiety try to silence that message, which is foolish and futile. It’s like disconnecting a warning light in your car instead of fixing the problem it’s trying to alert you to.
When the underlying issue is identified and repaired, the warning light turns off automatically. It’s the same with anxiety… When the underlying issue is identified and healed, the anxiety fades away naturally.
Having suffered from anxiety myself for almost 20 years, I know that anxiety feels very real, but it never is the real issue. I mean, the things you think you’re anxious about, aren’t the real issue. So, you’re not really anxious about external things, like failure, social interactions, your health or your finances. These things may have activated your anxiety, but they didn’t cause it.
The seeds of your anxiety took root in your early childhood, when your sense of self was forming. A deep emotional wound (core wound) shaped you, and since then, you’ve been working (often subconsciously) to keep that emotional pain at bay. Anxiety and panic are warning signals that your core wound is being reactivated by something that’s happening now.
For anxiety therapy to be effective, the entirety of your core wound, including any associated feelings and core beliefs, must be identified and healed. When this inner threat has been resolved, your nervous system can relax, and your anxiety will disappear, permanently. That’s not to say you’ll never feel mild anxiety ever again – you will, because that’s normal – but you won’t feel the same debilitating anxiety that you have now.
Hi, I’m Lee Bladon, and as an anxiety therapist, I can help you to heal your anxiety it at its core. Together we’ll gently and safely explore your anxiety – with your body, heart, mind and soul – to identify and heal the underlying cause, so it naturally softens and fades away.
My deeply transformative approach as an anxiety therapist goes far beyond nervous system regulation and symptom management. Your anxious thoughts, uncomfortable feelings and avoidant behaviours aren’t the real problem – they’re just symptoms of a deeper core wound. Most therapists and coaches focus on trying to manage these surface-level symptoms, and while that may bring some temporary relief, it doesn’t address the underlying cause of your anxiety.
When we explore what lies beneath your anxiety, we’ll find a deficient feeling that your nervous system is afraid of re-experiencing. The deficient feeling was caused by a core wound, and is linked to a core belief, such as: I’m inherently bad, unlovable or don’t matter. Together, the core wound, core belief, deficient feeling, and fear of re-experiencing it all subconsciously fuels your anxiety.
By identifying your core belief, deepening into the deficient feeling, and healing your core wound, your anxiety will naturally soften and disappear. It sounds simple, but it takes time because we have to work our way through layers and layers of psychological defences to get there.
If you’re ready to heal your anxiety once and for all, I’m here to guide and support you. I’m based in the UK but I work exclusively on Zoom, which allows me to support clients all over the world.
Different Types of Anxiety
Anxiety can take many forms, and is different for everyone. Understanding which type of anxiety you’re experiencing is the first step toward truly resolving it. Here are some of the most common anxiety patterns I see as an anxiety therapist:
- Generalised Anxiety: Pervasive unease not tied to anything specific. It reflects disconnection from your grounded, essential self, leaving you scanning for threats.
- Relationship Anxiety: Insecurity that make closeness feel both desirable and threatening. It’s rooted in early attachment wounds where love felt conditional.
- Social Anxiety: Acute self-consciousness and fear of judgment making it hard to relax around others. It stems from experiences where your true self wasn’t welcomed.
- Imposter Syndrome: Self-doubt and the belief that you’re not enough, despite evidence to the contrary. It’s linked to a sense of unworthiness from conditional love or impossible standards.
- Health Anxiety: Hypervigilance to bodily sensations, which are mis-interpreted as serious illness. It relates to unprocessed trauma or deeper fears about mortality and control.
- Panic Disorder: An intense fear of panic itself, which creates a cycle where anticipating panic actually triggers panic.
- Performance Anxiety: Fear of being exposed as inadequate. It’s tied to perfectionism and the belief that self-worth depends on performance.
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: Attemps to create certainty through rituals and compulsions. It stems from an unpredictable or traumatic childhood.
Anxiety & Awakening – The Link
Anxiety isn’t just as a problem to fix – it’s often a doorway to deeper self-discovery and awakening. The root cause of generalised anxiety is an unstable sense of self – When we feel shaky and insecure on the inside, the outside world appears shaky and unsafe.
This perceived lack of safety puts our nervous system into a permanent state of hyper-arousal (fight or flight), so we feel anxious about anything and everything. Our mind tries to make sense of things by projecting our anxiety onto things in the outside world. So, we think we’re anxious about something “out there”, but the real problem is inside of us – we don’t know who we are! Put really simply – generalised anxiety is our ego-self fearing for its own survival.
If this resonates with you, awakening to your true authentic nature is the key to resolving your anxiety, permanently. My unique approach as an anxiety therapist gently loosens your identification with this wobbly conceptual sense of self (who-you-think-you-are) and helps you to reconnect with the presence and wholeness of your soul’s essence (who-you-actually-are). More specifically it involves:
- Feeling into, and dialoguing with, the conditioned aspects of your consciousness – your wounded parts, fearful parts, protective parts, reactive parts, core beliefs, repressed emotions, deficient feelings, tension patterns and energetic blockages.
- Connecting with, and embodying, the unconditioned aspects of your consciousness – your soul’s presence, pure awareness, unique essence and essential qualities, e.g. strength, love, joy.
What causes anxiety and how to heal it?
Here are some common causes of anxiety and the best approach to healing it:
- Emotionally Unstable Childhood: Growing up in an unpredictable, unstable or unsafe environment teaches the nervous system to stay on constant high alert, even when there’s no real danger. Gradually training our nervous system to feel that our inner world (body and heart) and outer world are safe, is the key to easing this type of anxiety.
- Emotional Avoidance: Sometimes anxiety arises as a way of protecting us from feeling overwhelming emotions, like grief, by shifting our focus onto bodily symptoms instead. Developing a felt sense of safety, then gently feeling into the painful emotion and seeing where it takes us, is the key to healing this type of anxiety.
- Emotional Suppression: When emotions like anger, sadness or fear are pushed down instead of being expressed, they can surface indirectly as anxiety. The build-up of emotional energy creates imbalances in the body, heart and mind, which often manifest as anxiety. Developing a felt sense of safety, then gently feeling into the supressed emotion and the deficient feeling that lies beneath it, is the key to resolving this type of anxiety.
- Unresolved Trauma: Past traumas, big or small, can leave the body primed to expect danger, long after the traumatic event is over, because it lives on in the body. Trauma short-circuits the nervous system, which often results in chronic anxiety (PTSD) and panic attacks. Developing a felt sense of safety, groundedness and emotional capacity are essential before feeling into the trauma. When the trauma has been safely processed, the anxious feelings will naturally fade away.
- Chronic Stress: Prolonged stress keeps the nervous system stuck in an overactive (hyper-aroused) state of anxiety. Nervous system regulation techniques alone, may be sufficient to ease this type of low level anxiety. However, there’s usually an underlying emotional root cause that needs addressing before the stress and anxiety are fully resolved.
- Mind-Body Disconnection: Living mostly in the mind (thinking, worrying, overanalysing) without feeling grounded in the body creates a sense of unease and anxiety. Learning to feel safe in the body and heart, then feeling into the buried emotions (that caused the disconnect), and gradually returning to embodied wholeness is the key to healing this type of anxiety.
- Shaky Sense of Self: When our sense of self feels uncertain or insecure, the world around us can feel unsafe too. This common cause of generalised anxiety is the universe compelling us to embark on a journey of self-discovery and spiritual awakening. Gradually freeing ourself from the deficient feelings and beliefs of our ego-self, and rediscovering the felt sense of our true essential nature, are the keys to resolving this type of anxiety. This is exactly what got me onto this path and eventually resulted in me becoming a coach and therapist.
A Unique Anxiety Therapist
Your anxiety is unique, and so is my approach as an anxiety therapist. I use a proven blend of highly effective modalities to transform your inner world and outer life:
The InCorr Method: A gentle yet effective, therapeutic approach that helps to identify, unpack and heal emotional issues at the root cause level.
Anxiety Mapping: Your anxiety has a unique pattern. mapping and understanding that pattern is a key aspect of healing your anxiety.
Somatic Inquiry: Being in the body is the foundation for exploring emotions and sensations to access deeper insights and healing.
Nondual Presence enables me to sense things within your body and soul, so I can assist with the unpacking and healing of your emotional material.
HeartMath: A simple yet effective breathwork practice that regulates and develops the nervous system; building safety, tolerance and capacity.
Inner Child Healing: Connecting with and nurturing your inner child to heal early emotional wounds and restore inner safety.
Parts Work (IFS): Processing resistance and reactivity by understanding and reintegrating the different “parts” of your psyche.
Anxiety Therapist Sessions
Each anxiety therapy session is a sacred space for deep healing. You don’t have to carry your anxiety alone anymore.
- 60-minute 1:1 sessions via Zoom.
- Private, confidential, heart-led and trauma-informed.
- Somatic / embodied inquiry to explore what your system is ready to reveal and release.
- Safe and supportive anxiety healing at your own pace.
Anxiety therapy requires “presence” (embodied awareness), but not physical presence, so we don’t need to be in the same room. The non-local nature of consciousness, energy, space and time, means deep transformations can occur wherever you are in the world.
No special preparation is required for a Zoom session, you simply need to sit in a comfortable chair with your computer, tablet or phone in front of you. Then click the Zoom link in your booking confirmation email to join the session at the scheduled time.
You don’t have to download any software but it is better if you do so: Download Zoom. And if you want to check that your camera and sound are working before we start, you can try a quick automated Test Call.
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What is anxiety?
Anxiety is what happens when our body’s threat detection system becomes overactive. Our nervous system is designed to keep us safe by scanning for danger, but when it gets stuck in a heightened state of alert, it sounds the alarm even when there’s no immediate threat. This creates a unique set of symptoms, such as dread, unease, nervous energy, worrying thoughts and light-headedness, which together we call anxiety.
What causes generalised anxiety disorder?
Generalised anxiety can be caused by a number of factors, including an emotionally unstable childhood, emotional avoidance or suppression, unresolved trauma, chronic stress, mind-body disconnection or a shaky sense of self. The common factor that underlies all of the above is a subconscious emotional wound or deficiency that your nervous system is terrified of. This fear and insecurity at the core of your being means your inner sense of self feels shaky and unstable, which makes everything you experience (including the outside world) feel shaky and unsafe. So, you’re not really anxious about the outside world, failure, social interactions or your health – you’re anxious because your inner experiencer feels unstable and afraid.
Where do other anxiety therapists go wrong?
Most anxiety therapist only focus on managing symptoms, e.g. nervous system regulation. They fail to identify and eliminate the underlying root cause of your anxiety – a specific deficient feeling that your nervous system perceives as an existential threat. Until that threat has been eliminated, you are going to keep experiencing your anxious thoughts and feelings, possibly for the rest of your life. I suffered like this for almost 20 years until I discovered how to heal it permanently.
How is your approach to anxiety therapy different?
Your anxious thoughts, uncomfortable feelings and avoidant behaviours aren’t the real problem – they’re just symptoms of a deeper core wound. Most therapists and coaches focus on trying to manage the surface-level symptoms, and while that may bring some temporary relief, it doesn’t address the underlying cause of your anxiety. When we explore what lies beneath your anxiety, we’ll find a deficient feeling that your nervous system is afraid of re-experiencing. The deficient feeling was caused by a core wound, and is linked to a core belief, such as: I’m inherently bad, unlovable or don’t matter. Together, the core wound, core belief, deficient feeling, and fear of re-experiencing it all subconsciously fuels your anxiety. By identifying your core belief, deepening into the deficient feeling, and healing your core wound, your anxiety will naturally soften and disappear, creating a lasting sense of calm and resilience. It sounds simple, but it takes time because we have to work our way through layers and layers of psychological defences to get there.
How to treat anxiety permanently?
How long does anxiety therapy take?
Well, like any journey – it depends on your starting point, i.e. your current level of consciousness, how supportive or distressing your childhood was, and your current level of emotional sensitivity, capacity and openness. The root cause of your anxiety probably lies at the core of your psyche, which is why it penetrates your entire life and sense of self. The core of your being is very well defended, psychologically speaking, so it takes time to get there. Deep work always takes time – several months minimum – but it is permanent.
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